Feeling down and crap about the breakup made me want to be alone. I didn’t want anyone to see me feeling so miserable so I hid and wallowed in it quietly in the comfort of my own home. But then when I tried to cheer myself up again I was so low and felt so crap about myself that I just couldn’t find it inside myself to feel happy. Even Sex In The City didn’t cheer me up. I just didn’t know what to do. Knowing that the dramatics of life and emotional meltdowns were all part of being a cool hip Carrie kind of girl just didn’t do the trick anymore.
So that was when I had to draft the real friends in and that is exactly what you are going to do.
Friends love us, they listen to our moans, they let us borrow their favorite dress and they hold our hair whilst we throw up. But sometimes when our shit really hits the fan we hide from them. We tell them that we are ok when all we really need is our friends around us, making us laugh whilst wiping our snot from our nose as we cry about that boy.
Feeling down makes us feel alone and when you add the break up bullsh*t to the mix too life can feel like a utter disaster. Life is not a disaster, you have plenty of magic and love still in your life and you are going to nourish yourself with it.
You have friends that adore you and this is the time to surround yourself with them. You are going to arrange a MendMaker Sisterhood Sleepover.
Gather all your friends over for a girly night and sleep over. It IS time to fully embrace the love of your friends whilst eating your favorite food, drinking your favorite drinks, and laughing about the good times. Pamper yourselves with face masks and manicures. Watch your favourite chick flicks and sing on karaoke. Do all the things that friends are meant to do, laugh, laugh and laugh some more. And if the mood takes you cry it all out over their shoulders.
We can only think of one thing at a time, I know us women are able to do 6 things at once, but the truth is we can only think of one thing at any one time. For example you can’t be depressed and happy at the same time. Nourishing ourselves with the relationships that are right in our life will make you feel happy, make you feel fulfilled and make you realise that you can and will take on the world – with or without a man in your life.
When we have all our wonderful friends around us they will only let us focus on the good stuff. Even after the wine when your mind slips back and allows your sad emotions to creep through your friends will be there to pull you out of it again.
Enjoy your sisterhood sleep over and book them in as often as you can whilst healing your broken heart. Your sisterhood sleep over is a safe place for you to be whilst your nurse your emotions back to health. Yes you may not want to go out, you may never want to see another man again and that at this moment is fine. But when we feel like this and when you feel down and alone you must and I been MUST pick up the phone and get your girlfriends round and enjoy the fact that each one of us has their very own Carrie Bradshaw, Charlotte York, Miranda Hobbes and Samantha Jones.